The Interview Guy Step Aside And Practice Honesty
Lately, I have been hearing the term "Interview Guy" pop up. In our digital world it is easy to create the persona you want. The filter makes you look better and the text messages excite. It is all very surface.
Honesty in a relationship is paramount. Start honestly by not being the interview guy. The interview guy only does what he thinks a woman wants. Think about that one minute. Now, think about what honesty is.
Fellas, the same way you get her is the same way you keep her. The issue at hand is that you don't know how to get her. Wait, did you just shrug your shoulders and say here is another misguided woman post? Nope. This one is not misguided at all.
The interview guy is the one that does everything right in the beginning and then stops doing anything after he thinks the deal is set. The interview guy is the one that takes you out to dinner and then when you are in a relationship he says he is too tired to do anything and goes to sleep on the couch.
It is a common issue. The woman you are with wants to be courted forever. She wants the flowers for the rest of her life. She wants the love texts and poems that you gave her in the early days. If you have ever watched daytime TV you may have caught a show called 'Divorce Court'. The show's most popular complaint is that the wife is ignored.
Always take the time to remind your true love of their wonderful qualities (even if you have to bite your tongue on the 'dis\' qualities). Let them know that you appreciate their culinary skills, their sense of humor, or whatever. Highlight all the positive things they do. Those things matter everyday. The world does a job on your woman's psyche everyday.
Fellas, the same way you get her is the same way you keep her. The issue at hand is that you don't know how to get her. Wait, did you just shrug your shoulders and say here is another misguided woman post? Nope. This one is not misguided at all.
The interview guy is the one that does everything right in the beginning and then stops doing anything after he thinks the deal is set. The interview guy is the one that takes you out to dinner and then when you are in a relationship he says he is too tired to do anything and goes to sleep on the couch.
It is a common issue. The woman you are with wants to be courted forever. She wants the flowers for the rest of her life. She wants the love texts and poems that you gave her in the early days. If you have ever watched daytime TV you may have caught a show called 'Divorce Court'. The show's most popular complaint is that the wife is ignored.
Always take the time to remind your true love of their wonderful qualities (even if you have to bite your tongue on the 'dis\' qualities). Let them know that you appreciate their culinary skills, their sense of humor, or whatever. Highlight all the positive things they do. Those things matter everyday. The world does a job on your woman's psyche everyday.
Trust me.
Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king. If she doesn't move on and understand that she may not be the one for you. Any shared experience that draws you together — watching the sun set, going to church/temple together, trying a new activity or food, cuddling, hugging, holding hands — can build intimacy in your relationship, which will keep things more exciting and fulfilling. Covid-19 has shown many couples that they have nothing connecting them.
It's really sad to see so many couples struggling because they based their relationships on sex and exterior actions. Grand romantic gestures can be wonderful, but it's the every day actions, the small acts of love, that truly enhance the bond and keep the romance alive. Send your spouse, significant other a daily 'I love you' message — a simple text message, selfies sent saying wish you were here during a work trip, or five minutes of quiet.
Don't be the guy who is great at the start and becomes mediocre and downright bland. Don't present someone you are not. If you are not in to the grand gestures you should think about what it is really you. Think about what you can do. Don't dress up and pretend to be something you are not. Yet, don't treat her like she is just there for your use. Yes, I said that.
Too many guys think it is okay to be charming, romantic and gracious at the beginning and then suddenly stop when you become a couple. Put the effort in.
It's really sad to see so many couples struggling because they based their relationships on sex and exterior actions. Grand romantic gestures can be wonderful, but it's the every day actions, the small acts of love, that truly enhance the bond and keep the romance alive. Send your spouse, significant other a daily 'I love you' message — a simple text message, selfies sent saying wish you were here during a work trip, or five minutes of quiet.
Don't be the guy who is great at the start and becomes mediocre and downright bland. Don't present someone you are not. If you are not in to the grand gestures you should think about what it is really you. Think about what you can do. Don't dress up and pretend to be something you are not. Yet, don't treat her like she is just there for your use. Yes, I said that.
Too many guys think it is okay to be charming, romantic and gracious at the beginning and then suddenly stop when you become a couple. Put the effort in.
It is about honesty. Be honest, stay honest and always keep it honest.
Honesty grows our character. When we are honest we are holding people accountable for their behavior. It challenges us and encourages us to be a better human being. We become a person that thinks about our choices and how they can help or hurt the relationship and the person we care about.
Honesty gives understanding. This is important because it will help you understand your past, present and future. When we give honesty it doesn’t necessarily reap understanding right away.Honesty gives us freedom. We are free to be ourselves, when we find ourselves in relationships were we can be honest. We don’t have to worry about working hard to be accepted or appreciated for who we are. Everything is talked about and shared because we care.
Honesty grows our character. When we are honest we are holding people accountable for their behavior. It challenges us and encourages us to be a better human being. We become a person that thinks about our choices and how they can help or hurt the relationship and the person we care about.
Honesty gives understanding. This is important because it will help you understand your past, present and future. When we give honesty it doesn’t necessarily reap understanding right away.Honesty gives us freedom. We are free to be ourselves, when we find ourselves in relationships were we can be honest. We don’t have to worry about working hard to be accepted or appreciated for who we are. Everything is talked about and shared because we care.
Honesty demonstrates genuine love. Healthy and wholesome families know this to be true. When you love a person, you want to protect them from the evils of the world. We live in a world that isn’t always kind. Some people (any one who is reading this I bet can think of at least one, probably more) seek pleasure at someone else’s expense. Those that love best are super honest because seeing them hurt and damaged is the last thing they want for them.
So interview guy.. when you get the job; do the job.
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