Stop Giving More ... When You Get Nothing

Many of us spend a lot of time and energy pursuing relationships with the wrong men, or working overtime to keep men that we should actually be letting go of. 

People hear those special words ‘give’ and ‘take’ and just run with them with a misguided idea that they will solve everything. 

He’s not being attentive? Give him more attention. 

He doesn’t want to commit? Give him everything you’ve got and then some. 

He’s not interested? Give him plenty of your energy as you keep pursuing him.

Women who pursue emotionally unavailable men are classic examples of women who have far too much emotion to give to the wrong people. 

Misguidedly there is a belief that if you show just how much you care that he will realize that you are the right woman and miraculously become available. Trust me when I say that you have more chance of walking on water.

For the women who give too much, this is the reality: When you keep giving and giving and are always there, despite the fact that he has only one foot in the relationship or doesn’t want what you have to offer

He thinks ‘CAN’T SHE SEE I’M NOT INTERESTED?! CAN’T SHE SEE THAT I’M NOT THE ONE FOR HER? CAN’T SHE TAKE A HINT? WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR HER TO GET THE MESSAGE’. 

Not really very nice is it?

Yes, these guys could just say that  but  that would require them to have balls and not fear confrontation. 

Let' be truthful: How many of us have suffered with the followimg: 

I’m Hearing Him But I’m Not Listening syndrome? 

With some women, it doesn’t matter what the guy says, she will still be there as sure as the sky will be above your heads. The type of guy that gets swept up in things because he doesn’t have the guts to bring about the type of conversation that might lead to a confrontation, eventually just ‘succumbs’ to what is happening. 

The reality is that both parties end up miserable in the end because in a situation like this, neither party is getting what they want.

Don’t keep throwing everything plus the kitchen sink at men that don’t deserve you because the reality is that they will NEVER appreciate it and you deserve better.