Don't Blow Off Basic Dating Etiquette
It's starting to be an interesting summer.
While at dinner this past Friday night I saw the craziest thing I thought I would ever see. I saw a young couple on a date. The young man reached to pay the check and the young lady with him wrestled him for the check. No.. I mean actually wrestled him for the check.
He finally managed to get the check out of his hands, but you could see how embarrassed he was. She finally let go of the check and scurried off to the bathroom. He handed the check to the waitress and commenced texting very angrily on his phone.
I could only think to myself.. if that was a first date she will never get a second date.
In these increasingly casual times, some of the nuances of being a good date are being left behind. Sure, you know you shouldn’t chew with your mouth open or discuss politics, but there are plenty of fumbles, both big and small, that can take a date from a great night out at a romantic restaurant to a night you wish you could just forget.
First if he starts to pay for the check, let him,. wrestling in front of everyone is uncool. It will make him feel odd and make you look immature.
Here are some pointers to remember on a first date, no matter how or where you meet. The first is to dress to impress, or put in some effort when you're meeting someone, as it might come across as rude if you show up disheveled. You don't have to wear a cocktail dress or three-piece suit, but brushing your hair and teeth before might help.
The second and third involve the elephant in the room during first dates: money and who's paying. Offer to pay your half. Maybe your date will insist on paying, but you don’t want to come across expectant without even offering, If he offers let it go and do not argue about it. In modern etiquette, it is seen as respectable and a sign of independence. That being said, I always say in modern etiquette who pays should not have to do with gender but instead whoever invited the other person out—picked the restaurant, made the reservation, ordered the bottle of wine, etc.—is the person who is hosting and should pay. If you invite than you pay. Period no exceptions. if someone treated you, send a thank-you note. It doesn't have to be on monogrammed stationery. You can send a simple thanks via text.
In addition, this whole concept of dressing down for date is trash. This doesn't mean you have to blow your savings on a designer suit. Anyone can put on a clean shirt and pressed pants. Dress appropriately for the date and show that you put some effort into your appearance. You should have enough respect for your date to be in clean clothes, smelling nice and have your hair brushed.
Treat people the way you want to be treated. Being ghosted is horrible either way, so avoid doing it to someone else, especially when dating, Not only is it hurtful to have happen to you, but burning a bridge is never a good idea and you never know when you will see that person again. If someone has ghosted you, I wouldn't recommend you keep reaching out after you sent a message and there was no reply. Move on and try to brush it off. You don't want to date or be friends with someone who would do that anyway.
It is also important to maintain your integrity while on your date. If the two of you just don't seem to click, do not make promises that you will see each other again or that you will call tomorrow. A simple, "It was nice to meet you" is the best way to end a night that you do not want to repeat.
He finally managed to get the check out of his hands, but you could see how embarrassed he was. She finally let go of the check and scurried off to the bathroom. He handed the check to the waitress and commenced texting very angrily on his phone.
I could only think to myself.. if that was a first date she will never get a second date.
In these increasingly casual times, some of the nuances of being a good date are being left behind. Sure, you know you shouldn’t chew with your mouth open or discuss politics, but there are plenty of fumbles, both big and small, that can take a date from a great night out at a romantic restaurant to a night you wish you could just forget.
First if he starts to pay for the check, let him,. wrestling in front of everyone is uncool. It will make him feel odd and make you look immature.
Here are some pointers to remember on a first date, no matter how or where you meet. The first is to dress to impress, or put in some effort when you're meeting someone, as it might come across as rude if you show up disheveled. You don't have to wear a cocktail dress or three-piece suit, but brushing your hair and teeth before might help.
The second and third involve the elephant in the room during first dates: money and who's paying. Offer to pay your half. Maybe your date will insist on paying, but you don’t want to come across expectant without even offering, If he offers let it go and do not argue about it. In modern etiquette, it is seen as respectable and a sign of independence. That being said, I always say in modern etiquette who pays should not have to do with gender but instead whoever invited the other person out—picked the restaurant, made the reservation, ordered the bottle of wine, etc.—is the person who is hosting and should pay. If you invite than you pay. Period no exceptions. if someone treated you, send a thank-you note. It doesn't have to be on monogrammed stationery. You can send a simple thanks via text.
In addition, this whole concept of dressing down for date is trash. This doesn't mean you have to blow your savings on a designer suit. Anyone can put on a clean shirt and pressed pants. Dress appropriately for the date and show that you put some effort into your appearance. You should have enough respect for your date to be in clean clothes, smelling nice and have your hair brushed.
By the way ghosting is awful.
It is also important to maintain your integrity while on your date. If the two of you just don't seem to click, do not make promises that you will see each other again or that you will call tomorrow. A simple, "It was nice to meet you" is the best way to end a night that you do not want to repeat.
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