Flags That The Relationship Is Toxic

 
It finally happened for you (or so you think): You met some great person who works really well with you (on paper) and you're in a steady relationship. But you have this nagging feeling that in fact.

Maybe it's something even more intangible, like just a feeling you have (or don't have) when you're together.

The sad truth is that working well together on paper doesn't necessarily translate to working well together in real life. Or, for that matter, having the chemistry needed to make a relationship work. Is it possible that you're just in love with love, or maybe even in love with the idea of love?

Here are a few glaring red flags to look out for that could mean it's time to call it quits on your relationship and spend some time solo:

1. You Really Wanted To Be In A Relationship

Before you met this person, did you really, really, really want to be in a relationship? Did it feel like all of your friends and acquaintances were settling down and it was just time you did so as well? Did you feel any pressure to start looking for "the one"?

If so, you may have just fallen in love with the idea of love because you saw it around you so much, rather than fallen in love with your partner.

Many people say that they found "the one" when they were least expecting it. You can meet that someone in hallway at work minding your business. This doesn't mean that's how it will go for everyone, but if you felt like you were desperate for a relationship before you linked up with your current partner (and you don't feel so hot about them now), it could be a sign you're in love with a fantasy.

2. You Try To Change Them

Does your partner have little annoying traits that you are always trying to change? Do they frustrate you to no end when they do one of their weird, quirky personality things?

Sure, none of us is perfect and we all have some strange habits. That said, when you truly meet "the one," you'll love these habits of theirs just as you love the rest of them. I know it's hard to picture now, because you might have felt annoyed by certain habits in every relationship you've been in, but with "the one," it'll feel easy to embrace these things because of how perfect they are for you.

3.You Refuse To Let The Relationship Go

Despite all of these negative feelings you have about the relationship, are you unwilling to let it go? If so, this is a definite sign that you're in love with the idea of love, instead of with your actual partner.

If things just feel off and you haven't been able to get in sync with your partner. Of course, this is not to mention if you constantly worry them being with someone else and you are  always around them to make sure they don't cheat. This is a red flag you're in trouble. If you still refuse to end the relationship, all you're doing is making yourself and your partner unhappy and miserable.