Offering to Be A Sugar Daddy Is Not Great Intro

A “sugar baby” is someone who receives “gifts” (including cash) in exchange for company – which can include sex, but doesn't have to. A “sugar daddy,” a person who gives such “gifts,” is typically wealthier and older than the sugar baby. The case of “sugar mommas” is rarer, probably since women are less willing to pay for sex.   

Although sex is indeed common in sugaring, not all sugar daddies seek such intimate relations. Similarly, although most sugar babies engage in sugaring in order to meet their expenses, some are hoping for a serious relationship—yet, in many cases, the sugar daddy is married.

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue for both sugar babies and daddies. A sugar daddy does not want to feel like he is a john and a sugar baby does not want to feel like she is a prostitute. Accordingly, sugaring aims for mutual respect between the partners.

This is reflected in the sugaring terminology of “partner” rather than “worker” and “client”—although sugar babies are clearly the weaker partner. Indeed, while people speak about “ordering,” or “going to,” a prostitute, they speak about “meeting” or “dating” a sugar baby.

So now that we got that all out of the way. Grown women do not want you to drop in their 'DMS' and offer to be a sugar daddy. 

Unless you get specific concrete  inferences, do not do it. 

Do not reach out to us  and present money as an opening to begin a conversation with us. It's insulting. What it says to us is that we are not anything more than something that can bought on a whim.   

It's not okay to reach out and think that it is a great presentation of wanting to engage with us by offering to be a sugar daddy.The issues of commitment and trust are significant in romantic relationships. If you are reaching out to not find out about me but offering money we already have a problem. That mean this is transactional and not relational. 

Women are much happier with men that have something to say.  Offering to be a sugar daddy is the equivalent of whistling at me on the street. I don't like cat calls so why would I like random sugar baby offers?

So.. gentlemen before you offer money, how about you offer an intelligent conversation about the state of weather in your area. 

How about you talk about that beautiful son or daughter of yours. 

Let's start there shall we?